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December 2008



Happy Holidays from all of us at Mental Edge! May this season be filled with love, joy and peace for your family. Shaun, Dawn, Justin, Shannon, Jessica, Cindy and Brian

Announcements

90-Day Challenge for Parents
The Mental Edge has launched a 90-day Challenge for any parent that wants to revitalize and increase the quality of relationship with his or her kids by being a better asker of quality questions. Each month we will provide 5 or more quality questions to help you make bids toward your son or daughter. Please email Dawn@MentalEdgeNow.com to accept the challenge!

Mental Edge Roles Out High Impact Academic Mentoring
The Mental Edge is really excited about our New High Impact Academic Mentoring! If your child struggles academically or simply wants to have an edge or fine-tune a skill set, this one-on-one Academic Mentoring will help provide him/her with the tips and strategies to succeed! See Shannon Tilley’s article below and our Services Page for more information on the program and Shannon’s impressive experience as an Academic Mentor.

Mental Edge Maintenance Program
Have you mentored with the Mental Edge yet would like an opportunity to keep in contact with your Mental Edge Coach? We are please to announce our High Impact Maintenance Program! You can get unlimited phone, text, and email contact with your coach on a monthly basis for $275.00. Please call Dawn at 763-439-5246 to begin. Open to all past mentoring clients!

Did you know
we offer complimentary 30-minute telephone initial consultations? If you or someone you know would like a first-hand experience of what we are all about, simply call Dawn to schedule your no-obligation consultation with Shaun or Justin today!

Upcoming Events:

High Impact Parent Seminars
High Impact Parenting Seminars introduce our Mental Edge philosophy and strategies for teaching and mentoring life skills in and out of sports. Receive tips and real-life examples to help you understand how to express interest and involvement in the activities of your children allowing you to more effectively influence positive development..

“The best 60 minutes I’ve spent thinking about my kids in the last month!”  Parent

“I came here tonight thinking I didn’t need this. It’s one of the best things that could have happened to me. I’m changing some of my coaching ways!”
Hockey Coach

“Great! Invaluable for parents.”
Parent

“This was a positive experience. I especially found useful the explanation of attention and power behaviors in kids and parents.”
Parent

For more information and to schedule a High Impact Parenting Seminar for your school, club, or association please call 763 439 5246 today!
 

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Newsletter Archives

Efficient Summer Training through Goal Setting - 6/07 

Getting the Mental Edge 6/07

Failing Huge 7/07

Value of Reflection 8/07

Core Confidence 10/07

Parenting That Opens Up Kids 11/07

It is Not All or Nothing 12/07

Detail Leads to Confidence 1/08

Preparing for Playoffs 2/08

March Madness 4/08

Skill Development 5/08

High Impact Conversations 6/08

Design Power 7/08

Tryout Preparation 8/08

A Life Changed 9/08

Stress Yourself for Enhanced Performance 10/08

The High Impact Association 11/08

 

 

 


 

 




 

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 




 

Confidence is Within Your Control
Shaun Goodsell, MA

One of the most common topics that I get asked about from players, coaches, and parents has to do with confidence.
The questions I get vary as people attempt to understand this seemingly misunderstood concept. I would like to pull three of the most common questions I get and respond to them in a attempt to bring greater clarity for those seeking to develop confidence, as well as, understand the role of confidence in understanding performance.

1. Is confidence a critical factor in how someone performs?
Although confidence plays a part in impacting how an athlete performs, what is more critical is how masterful an athlete has become concerning the foundational skills of the sport they play. What is true is that an athlete develops a great deal of confidence based on how effective they feel they have been at developing and mastering skills that allow them to compete with those they play against. If an athlete hasn't invested the time, energy, and dedication to practicing the skills needed to experience success then confidence should not be a "right". Therefore, what is important to performance has more to do more with skill development than confidence.

2. When my son/daughter seems to lack confidence is the antidote encouragement?
The answer to this is maybe. I believe we have become a culture (especially with our kids) that believes the answer for every problem is encouragement. Certainly our kids need optimistic, positive people in their life, however, they also need "truth tellers" that are able to communicate truthful statements in optimistic and positive ways to help them build a healthy self perception built on better "truth". Telling an athlete they played well when they didn't does nothing to build their confidence, in fact, it confirms in the mind of many that adults just tell kids things to make them feel better. This actually erodes the possibility of confidence because of the credibility that is lost.

The last question is: What helps to grow self-confidence?
I want to start by saying that confidence can be compartmentalized into different life interests. Example; I can be confident in my ability to understand a persons emotional pain and have zero confidence in my ability to build shelves for my garage. My lack of confidence in building doesn't compromise my overall confidence as a person it simply means I have not developed the skills associated with building shelves. With this example as a guide I believe the inner belief in oneself that we label as confidence is created, grown, and developed when we invest time, energy, interest, and genetic cooperation to develop what it takes to perform effectively in competitive situations. Because of this, I believe developing true confidence is, in reality, within all of our control. I hope the clarification around this often-used topic is helpful.

If there are other topics that you would like to see articles around please let us know.

To find out more about this topic and to schedule a free telephone consultation, please call 763.439.5246.

Shaun Goodsell
President and CEO
Mental Edge

 

 

Practice with a Purpose
Justin Johnson, Mental Edge Performance Coach

Great practice habits and dedication to skill development are indicators of one’s mental approach. This means with the right mental approach you can ensure quality and efficient use of your precious time and energy for each and every hour of practice you have this season. Throughout my playing career there was one constant in my locker stall. It was simply a piece of tape with the message “Get Better Today”. A quick glance was all I needed to put myself into the mindset to focus on my development. It was my cue to practice with a purpose so I could make gains on the competition.

Now that I’m a coach I compare practices through out the season to riding an escalator. If you show up and put in an average effort; that is, working hard enough that you won’t be accused of being lazy, then you will likely make small gains in your development at the pace of everyone else around you. Much like stepping onto an escalator and letting it take you upward. But what happens if you walk up a couple steps… or even run up an escalator? You surpass all those heading in the same direction and you reach your goals ahead of them.

Below are two ways to enhance your mental approach towards practice so that you can increase the distance on your competition.

Having a Plan
Planning, as skill or personality trait, comes easier for some than for others. So, for those of you who wince at the idea of a planned out weekly calendar applied to your practice schedule… relax and keep reading. Having a plan speaks more to the idea that you are going to spend a few moments prior to practice to establish a purpose or goal for your efforts that day. Inspiration of such a purpose may come from the type of performance from your last game to something you watched a pro or college player do last night on television. Your purpose for practice may be as broad as compete until the end on each play, or as specific as maintaining balance on a specific move. The goal to having a personal plan for practice is to resist the all too easy habit of slipping into a comfort zone. Resist becoming a mindless zombie simply showing up and taking up space for the day.

For those of you who are detail oriented and planning comes easily to you, I encourage you to write down your plan for the day as well as how you felt it went or any noteworthy thoughts or tips on your practice afterwards. This will enhance your development and give you a record to refer back to throughout the season and your career.

Become Dynamic
Secondly, if sports, or life for that matter, teach us anything it is that even the best-laid plans need to be changed from time to time. As an athlete you must adapt to the play of the game and you must be ready to adapt in practice as well when the initial plan of what skill you’re going to work on doesn’t fall in line with what the coach has planned. Rather than holding rigid to your previous plan, thus wasting a practice, see it as an opportunity to work on another part of your game. The ability to be dynamic allows you to develop regardless of what opportunities are presented to you in practice.

When you become dynamic then you hold the key to your development. It is your responsibility to find a purpose for practice not the coaches. The moment you adopt a purposeful mental approach to practice is the moment you begin to run up the escalator. I challenge each of you as athletes looking for an edge to leave the competition behind this year by choosing to run up the escalator!

For more information on this topic or to schedule a complimentary 30-minute telephone consultation with Justin, please call Dawn at 763

To find out more about this topic and to schedule a free telephone consultation, please call 763.439.5246.
 

What They're Saying about the Mental Edge

“I watched my son the last two tourneys and he has really had great focus! It's like he was like his old self prior to going to the U when I used to watch him as a junior. It's like my real son is back! His progress has been fun to watch. I hope you realize I think you really helped and he does too! Thanks so much for your time and effort. You'll always have a place in our family’s heart.”

~ Parent
 

“What a difference a year can make. Last September, as our son entered his junior year, he was working hard but felt like he was spinning his wheels. His confidence was low and he was second guessing himself in social situations, academics and in hockey (on and off the ice). He was negative, confused and didn’t think he could do anything about it. He was waiting for things to happen and hoping for the best versus taking initiative and making things happen. He felt unneeded pressure and was a classic victim. As parents, we were frustrated, supportive but lacked the perspective and training to effectively handle this situation. We knew we needed help - someone that could uniquely connect with our son and his issues. We wanted someone that would positively tell him “truths” and could help him understand who he is, how he thinks and works and give him tools for living his life.

We have to admit, when we picked up the phone to call you we were apprehensive but figured it was worth a try. We had no idea how profound the experience would be for him. Today, our son is more confident and demonstrating a winning attitude. He is upbeat, an initiator and fun to be around (usually – he is still a teenager). He has been more positive and busy this summer – a night and day difference from last summer. He is able to see beyond the moment, set personal goals and be more proactive. He is often the initiator when planning to hang out with friends or thinking about his future. The biggest life tool however has been the ability to recognize and reverse his self talk when he is in a slump. For example, when he has a bad shift in hockey, he recognizes it and rather than spiraling out of control he pulls himself out of it and can get back on track. He can now make mistakes without becoming dysfunctional. Another big change is - he plays for himself, not for his coaches, us or others. He knows what he needs to do. He can listen and be open to information and decide on the action.

It was fun to watch the process and the relationship develop between you and our son. We don’t claim to understand it, nor do we need to understand it because we see the results. He developed a confidence and friendship that you clearly earned over the course of several months. This confidence enabled him to trust and try the techniques you were advocating. Your sessions were private. Sometimes he would share information, mostly he didn’t.

One thing we could feel - was your passion for what you do. As caring and involved (maybe too involved) parents, it was difficult for us to back off, trust your process and be patient. We are glad we did. We learned new parenting skills in the process (a bonus) – backing off and giving up control, patience and how to be better communicators with our teen. There is no silver bullet but your approach is working for our kid at this time in his life. We are grateful for your help and available to give you the highest recommendation. Please thank Dawn as well – for her outstanding communication and organizational skills. You make a great team!!”

~ Brad and Deb
 

“When we first met Justin Johnson at a State Bantam tournament a few years ago, he talked a little bit about The Mental Edge. I remember thinking to myself, “This is exactly what my son needs!” My son, Nolan, was one of our team’s two goaltenders. He had good skills, but was struggling with confidence issues and was having difficulty dealing with adversity. Having majored in Psychology myself, I was keenly aware of the importance of mental preparation. On the way home from the tournament, I talked with Nolan about The Mental Edge. Always interested in improving his game, he was very interested in trying it out.

All of Nolan’s goaltending training has been valuable, but The Mental Edge training has clearly been the most effective. I sat back and watched, with amazement, as his game consistently improved and his own satisfaction with his performance visibly increased over the next season. He was having fun again! Consequently, I became much more relaxed at his games. I began to enjoy break-a-ways, because I knew he was going to make the save!

At the end of the season, Nolan received a hand-written note from his coach congratulating him on his performance during the season. The coach went on to say, “Your consistency and confidence improved constantly, as did your skills.” His team members and other parents also noticed the difference.

Many of the mental strategies that he learned from Justin to improve his athletic skills are also excellent life skills that have helped him to become more assertive, responsible, and emotionally mature in his personal life. The training he received from The Mental Edge was not only the best investment I have ever made in my son’s athletic career, but also his emotional development. I would strongly recommend this program to any athlete, especially the youth. My son and I are both very grateful that we found The Mental Edge.”

~ Ellen Paulseth, Parent
 

“We wanted to send you a thank you for the wonderful work you have done with our son, Tyrone. Somewhere along the line, the pleasure and enjoyment Ty got out of sports began to feel more like pressure. He had a harder time focusing and felt frustrated with his performance. Through the profile assessment and the individual sessions with you, he learned tools to help him with positive thinking, managing disappointment and diversity, focusing, and increasing his confidence in all situations. He could apply these tools immediately and see the results in all areas of his life… his grades, his relationships with family, friends and teammates, and his sports performance. Most of all, he’s having FUN again. You made an instant connection with him and understood exactly what he was feeling. Your honest and direct approach quickly built a high level of trust and he valued you as a trainer and coach. We’ve spent a lot of money over the years for sports training but the Mental Edge program was definitely the best dollars for the results we ever invested in our son.

Thanks to Justin Johnson for his coaching and guidance (especially during the pre-tryout time) and to Dawn for keeping it all organized. You have a fabulous program and we would be happy to be a reference at any time.”

Colleen and Dan Simcoe
 

Thank you for being such caring and giving people! It is awesome for Jack to have such a positive mentoring relationship!

Cheryl
 

“I wanted to take a minute and reflect on the time that you spent with Allison. I can’t tell you how much a change we’ve seen in her since she started the program with you. She became acutely aware of what issues that she needed to address if she wanted to achieve the goals that she has for herself in hockey. She has worked so hard on improving her physical skills – which she has, but she really needed some focus on the mental part of the game; both on and off the ice. You helped her so much in that area! She feels that she is so much better prepared to handle the issues that affected her in hockey, and I have really seen the difference in her game since starting the program with you. As we both have told Allison, this is just a beginning in developing a stronger mental approach to the game, and that she has to consistently use the tools that you gave her to continue improving her game.

What’s even better is the “blueprint” that you left her with in which the both of you collaborated on, that will help her deal with future situations as they arise. She now has the tools that will help her better deal in the future with all the issues that affected her play in the past.

From a parent’s point of view, it was great to have someone outside the family with credibility to discuss these issues with her. She readily accepted your ideas, guidance and counseling and again, the results were outstanding. We know that we will be in touch again with you soon to develop a “maintenance” program for her as she continues down the path of achieving the high goals that she has for herself.

Thanks so much for your time with Allison; she really enjoyed the time she spent with you, and she feels, as my wife and I do, that she really got a lot out of the Mental Edge program. Thanks again!”


Respectfully,
Don Micheletti

Our daughter’s sessions with Shaun have definitely helped her deal with the many things she internalizes. We have seen a 180 turn around in how she plays and maintains control, I have not seen her ‘out of control’ attitude since summer before she started seeing Shaun. Thank You a Million!

Parent

 

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Dawn@MentalEdgeNow.com  
 
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EXPERTS AGREE one’s mental approach can separate the ordinary achiever from the exceptional one. A positive mental approach
is also strongly correlated with those individuals who derive a positive experience from their participation in athletic competition.
However, the skills required to achieve individual goals are often overlooked because the primary focus for development is
concentrated more on physical attributes than mental approach. At Mental Edge, our mission is to increase personal achievement
and elevate the experience of individuals through mentoring and the teaching of competencies necessary to achieve a positive experience, on and off the field of play. We believe personal satisfaction is fundamental to participation in sports ... and in life.